Living the Swing Life Style can be tricky if you don’t know what you’re doing. Even if you do know what you’re doing, there are many things that can go wrong and cause you to stumble along the way. In this article I’ll cover some of the common mistakes people make when living the Swing Life Style, and I hope it will save you from making them as well!
1) Poor attitude
The most important thing that you can do is have a positive attitude. Any kind of lifestyle can be fun and exciting if you choose to look at it that way. If you’re going into swinging with a negative outlook, chances are your experiences will mirror your attitude.
Find some good friends who know what they’re doing and ask them to keep an eye on how you behave around other people in and out of bed. It’s easy for newbies to focus too much on trying to pick up other swingers while they’re out at clubs or parties instead of just having fun.
2) Lack of practice
If you want to get better at swinging, practice is key. But too much of it without forethought can actually hurt your game. The best way to avoid overtraining or burning out is creating a routine for yourself, and then sticking with it even when you feel like playing a little more or taking a day off. Pick an amount of time that works for you (about 20 minutes three times per week will do wonders), and stick with it every time.
This gives your body time to rest and recover after each session, so you don’t wear yourself out and keep improving.
3) Playing with the wrong people
One of my favorite quotes is from Plato: Be careful who you hang out with, because you become like those people. We are what we repeatedly do. If you spend time with nice people, then you’ll become a nice person; if you spend time with boring people, then you’ll be boring.
If you choose your friends and partners wisely, then swinging will be a very fun and fulfilling part of your life; but if not, it won’t. In fact, it may end up being more trouble than it’s worth. So, when meeting new couples in order to develop new relationships and explore swinging together, take care in choosing who you let into your life—and your home!
4) Not building a network
Most new swingers try to dive right into being swingers without building up a network of friends. However, it’s important to remember that swinging is very much like any other social activity. The more you are in tune with local events and meet-ups, or get involved in various online forums, the better your chances of finding a compatible partner or partners.
It’s all about making connections. And you can only make those connections when you’re out there socializing and forming relationships.
5) Ignoring your own potential
Like many people in new relationships, swingers sometimes focus so much on their partners’ needs that they ignore their own. But if you don’t nurture your connection with yourself first, it won’t matter how connected you are with others; without a solid foundation, you’ll ultimately crumble under pressure. When you’re feeling needy or empty, be aware of what’s going on inside and find a way to fill it up before turning toward another person.
It’s good, even crucial, to swing life style on a regular basis. However, it’s also true that it’s easy to get in a rut and forget how swinging works. Here are five common mistakes people make when they try to work their way into a new sex life. Avoid these pitfalls as you transition into swinging and you’re more likely to have great experiences. Try some new things—and find new ways of improving your overall health.